A friend of mine saw the following, “Caregiver Bill of Rights,” on Facebook yesterday (4/17/16), however the original posting is showing as “Last Updated: April 9, 2015”


I have the right…to take care of myself. This is not an act of selfishness. It will give me the capability of taking better care of my relative.

I have the right…to seek help from others even though my relatives may object. I recognize the limits of my own endurance and strength.

I have the right…to maintain facets of my own life that do not include the person I care for, just as I would if he or she were healthy. I know that I do everything that I reasonably can for this person, and I have the right to do some things just for myself.

I have the right…to get angry, be depressed, and express other difficult feelings occasionally.

I have the right… to reject any attempts by my relative (either conscious or unconscious) to manipulate me through guilt and/or depression.

I have the right…to receive consideration, affection, forgiveness, and acceptance from my loved one for what I do, for as long as I offer these qualities in return.

I have the right…to take pride in what I am accomplishing and to applaud the courage it has sometimes taken to meet the needs of my relative.

I have the right…to protect my individuality and my right to make a life for myself that will sustain me in the time when my relative no longer needs my full-time help.

I have the right…to expect and demand that as new strides are made in finding resources to aid physically and mentally impaired persons in our country, similar strides will be made towards aiding and supporting caregivers.

Adapted from the book, CareGiving: Helping an Aging Loved One, by Jo Horne, published in 1985 by the American Association of Retired Persons.

I hope by re-posting this that some caregiver out there that thinks their only duty is to their caree or loved one, they need to realize that their health and well being is even more important because if they get sick or burned out then who will take care of their caree then?  Your health is number one on the list followed by your caree in a very close second.  Even though this is how it stacks up don’t think your letting your loved one down or that your doing them a dissservice by not being there, your sick it happens.  So please, take time for yourself each and every day, even if it’s simply 5-10 minutes a day sitting in a corner reading a book or working on a quick painting, it’s your time, treat it like it.  If your caree takes a daily nap, instead of doing laundry, washing dishes or cleaning the house, this is a perfect time to spend on you.  use it wisely.  Namaste’

 Richard K.  

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